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               Advice on Dating Shy Girls 

Before I dive into several useful tips on meeting shy girls, 
I believe it's important to address the question whether it is 
a good idea, for you, as a guy, to try to approach, meet and 
date shy girls. 

My answer is: absolutely. This is for several reasons. 

First, many girls who make an impression of being shy are not 
shy at all. Other girls are shy at first but later prove to be 
very outgoing. 

But even if the girl is truly shy, once you uncover her true self, 
you might just be in for a pleasant suprise suprise, as that shy 
woman often turns into a very passionate dating partner (and sex 
partner as well) is in many ways more aggressive and open minded 
than those who don't seem to be shy. 

So, don't perceive the low-key demeanor, modest clothing and 
quiet voice as negative signs. Such a girl might just be smarter, 
more interesting, and more passionate in bed than many of those 
women who like to be in the "spotight" or who also are known as 
"attention whores."  

If you laid your eye on a shy girl, there are a few things you 
need to keep in mind. 

First, she is shy for one or more of the common reasons: she might 
be inexperienced with men, she might be attracted to you as well 
and is afraid to do/say the wrong thing, she might be conservative, 
believing that she is not supposed to show any signs of interest, 
or she might be all of the above. 

Regardless of the reasons for her shyness you should consider 
the following tips: 

1. You should take things with a shy girl slower than with other 
women. You should give such a girl more time to get to the idea 
of being around a guy in general, and being around you specifically. 

Curb your flirting and your normal pace of physical advances, as 
this might overwhelm her and even scare her.   

2. Just as importantly, you must feel comfortable and act 
completely naturally around a shy girl. Even if being touched or 
kissed is a big deal to her, you must act like flirting and making 
graduate advances is the most natural thing for you. 

If she sees that you are comfortable around her, then she will 
subconsciously mirror your behavior sooner or later and will 
also become more comfortable.    

3. If she rejects any of your advances, such as pushing you away 
when you try to hug her or kiss her, don't take it personally, 
unless it's clear than she doesn't like you, but retreat and act 
like nothing bad happened and then try to make an advance later. 

Usually, a shy girl who is interested in you will feel guilty 
about pushing you away shortly after and will show far less 
resistance the next time you try to get closer to her. 

If she rejects you again, it's perfectly appropriate to ask her 
if she finds you unattractive and whether you should stop 
bothering her. 

A girl who likes you will quickly deny that and will expain to 
you why she acts the way she does, which in itself will be a 
great ice-breaker and will bring the two of you closer together.  

4. Ironically, my observations and experiences of many guys that 
I have interviewed indicate that shy girls can be extremely 
liberal sexually, and they might turn to be better partners 
in bed than many women who act and dress provocatively. 

This means that you might be in for a treat when you meet and 
start dating a shy girl.  

In sum, a shy girl might be a hidden treasure. 

It might take a while to find her and get to know her, but she 
might prove to be a great love and great dating partner, once 
you pass those initial stages of breaking a slightly thicker 
ice of shyness.

And, if the girl is very shy and she avoids eye contact, 
tease her about it and ask her: "You are not looking me in 
the eyes... am I that ugly?"