Make girls laugh, use this
For the longest time, I thought I knew what it
took to make
women laugh. I thought I knew how to be funny to
girls, that I
knew all of the jokes they wanted. I thought all
women wanted
was the same kinds of jokes that men did.
You know, the sarcastic wit and ironic punch lines that all
guys like. Comedy is supposed to be universal
after all, right?
Wrong.
As I looked around at the guys that were getting
girls, I was
noticing that the guys, in most cases, didn't need
to have a
great sense of humor. Or even be
funny at all.
The *secret* was something else completely.
(**Hint**: They just knew how to
"escalate"):
Oh and as to what do women find funny?
I sought to answer this question several years ago
by reading
countless books. And a common one then was one by
David D himself,
who came up with the C&F technique a.k.a.
being cocky-funny;
using a barrage of sarcasm to "bullying"
women into liking
you.
It made sense to me at the time, so I tried it
out.
I ended up getting a few women to like me using
this approach.
Since it seemed to be working, I tried to use this
on every
woman I saw.
Big mistake.
What I learned was that the women I was using this
strategy on
were the more "tomboy" side of the
group, the girls who are
generally more masculine.
While that's all well and good, what occurred to
me was that, by
only attracting this small minority of women, I
was leaving a
huge percentage of women still on the table.
Right off the bat, by using this method, most
women hated me.
I needed to change things up.
That's when I started to focus on watching my
friend Will.
Will is not who I'd call the wittiest or funniest
guy around,
but he always seemed to have a great rapport with
women. Girls
were always around him, maybe not rolling on the
ground in
stitches, but always with a playful smile on their
face.
What was his secret?
Watching him, I realized that he had what I'd like
to call
a "playground" or "fourth
grade" sensibility when it came to
humor.
He would tell knock-knock
jokes, or playfully tickle the girls.
Instead of being the greatest comic of all time,
he was just
out there having fun with the girls, and that's
what they were
responding to.
And that's when it hit me:
Girls don't want funny, they want FUN.
But why?
A simple process for making girls laugh
Look around for a moment and realize what girls
are laughing at.
They're not heading out to the latest dark indie
movie or
listening to the new Louis CK album.
(If they are, good for them, but this is a rare
thing.)
They're going out to the latest romantic comedy
and having a
good time. There's a reason romantic comedies are
geared
towards a female audience. That's what they
respond to!
In the same way, don't let your humor be too
sophisticated or
clever. It'll just look like you're trying too
hard and girls
don't respond to guys who are out there trying to
act "cool".
They respond to guys who are just being
themselves.
Especially if they themselves are fun.
Think about it: If you tell a hard-to-follow joke to
a girl,
she will sit there for a moment confused, trying
to figure out
your joke. That moment of her figuring-it-out,
even if it's a
great joke, is a moment that takes her out of the
moment.
She just wants to respond to the fun that you're
exuding, not
worry about whether or not she's getting the joke.
Again fun, NOT funny.
Playground humor never gets old. Just imagine
you're two
fourth-graders out on the playground at recess.
Back then it
was just about simple jokes and having a fun time.
This is the
kind of atmosphere you want to provide for the
girl.
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The "mouse race"
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One of my favorite ways to bring about this
playground
sensibility is a little bar game called the
"mouse race".
Simply take a pen and put it on a girl's arm.
Explain to her that
you are going to show her a race between three
mice. Say "and
here goes the blind mouse, so tell him when you
want him to stop."
Immediately, start drawing up her arm. Obviously,
she'll tell
the mouse to stop right away - she doesn't want an
arm full
of ink, after all - so stop. Follow this up by
having the
"dumb mouse" race.
Using the same process, have her tell you when he
should stop.
Start drawing and, once again, she'll immediately
tell you to
stop. Finally, it's time to race the "deaf
mouse". Start
drawing up her arm and, once again, she'll tell
you to stop.
But this time, don't. Instead continue drawing up
her arm.
If she gets the joke, she should start laughing at
this silly,
stupid little joke. The point isn't that it's
funny, but that
it's fun. And if she doesn't understand the joke,
let her know.
"Deaf mice can't hear you tell them to
stop!" She'll start
laughing at both the stupidity of the joke and
that she wasn't
able to put that together on her own. And then,
you're off.
Lame? Who cares, as long as it works :)
Remember: Fun... NOT funny.
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